Tuesday, February 19, 2008

It's You, Not Me

That thought just kept running through my head yesterday. I was in a really weird mood. Could've had something to do with the fact that my ex-man called the night before just to see how things are going. (???) Okay, I am wondering what ever gave him the right to know how things are going NOW. He didn't pay attention to anything for years. Oh well except, IF my middle daughter called him and "told on me." I will explain that. If she wanted to do something that cost a lot of money or I deemed it dangerous, or stupid for a girl her age or what ever and said no, she'd call him and tell him that I was singling her out and letting the other two do something but not her. Well, I'd get a call from him wanting to know why I was doing that to her, why am I such a mean person, why do I single her out? My reply to him..."Cause I know it just pisses you off. Why do you call and ask these things when you know she tells you horrible stories so you'll tell me I have to say yes."
He went on and on while "seeing how things are going" telling me his tales of woe. Let me tell you, he has a whole set of encyclopedias on his tales of woe. And you know, not one thing is caused by anything he has ever done in his life. It's always been the government, the city he lives in, the weather, wife (me) and plenty of girlfriends. For years I allowed him to blame me for all the woes of his being. I know now that I had nothing to do with that, but it tooks years to believe it. Now we get a call every once in a while. "How are things with you and the girls? This is what is happening to me."
Oh Well!
He informed me that he is losing his Social Security. He may have something set up with a friend for income and should be okay. He has a small place to live in and that's a good thing. He also said he is going back to the "Program" and is actually heading a meeting. The last thing he said is, "I'm going it alone this time." Well, knock me over with a bolt of lightening! He has always, I mean ALWAYS had a girlfriend who I suppose was there to save him, or give him an excuse for his problems. If he stays with this plan, he may figure out that it has always been him and not other people who caused his problems in the first place. I think I am in for a lot more phone calls.

Then yesterday, Wonder Boyfriend got under my skin. He has been deligently cleaning up the back yard. Wonderful, say I. But he did this thing and I started wondering what the heck he was doing. He piled up a bunch of gravel and was washing the dirt out of it. Okay, I get that, but he piled it up in a way that when it rains the water will just accumulate on the back patio. I told hime that it is supposed to rain this week and to make a couple of channels to let the water drain off while it is raining. He went out and started rinsing off the gravel again, not making the channels I asked for. So, figuring I didn't explain myself right, I went out and said there's no reason to rinse off the gravel, the rain will do that. Just cut the channels and let it go for a while until it stops raining. I went back about my business, but I kept hearing the water running. I went and looked and he was still rinsing gravel!!!!! So I opened my bedroom window and just screamed at him. Turn the damned water off, that's water I have to pay for, dig the channels, and shut the water off, the rain will wash the gravel. GRRRRRR. He finally shut the water off and left. Then I was thinking, oh crap! Now I have gone and done it. I am going to have to go dig the channel myself. Oh whoas my back. He came back later and dug the channels. (I still had to go out this morning and clean it up here and there, but the rain will drain off now.) I think this is why I haven't found my own boyfriend, I don't play well with others!
I'm better this morning, but I still have that, it's not me, it's you running through my head.

7 comments:

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

Do you want me to come over and yell at the boyfriend? My illness is making me bitchy (ask John) so I'd be happy to be the bad guy for you.

I think I'm dying.

Hallie

kim-d said...

Okay, now remind me again why it is you will have to be getting lots more phone calls? This is your EX, right? How about not enabling him to whine...at least not to you. I don't mean to be nasty-sounding or anything, but once that "EX" came up in front of whatever you call him, you don't have to put up with any more crap from him. And I assume the middle kid is no longer calling and being a typical manipulative child who is trying to play one parent against the other? I hope so but, if not, what would give him the right to tell you that you HAD to do something. Pfffft. She'd do that ONCE. Now, Claudia, I know I don't know the whole situation and such, but you don't HAVE to put up with this type of thing. You don't have to listen to him, you don't have to be supportive of him, you don't have to do anything with/for/about him--the kids are all grown! It just seems to me, Claudia, that you don't need that. You have enough going on with your own life and being busy and trying to keep it all together. I mean, really....who do YOU get to call and whine to? Know what I mean, Jellybean? Don't let him take advantage!

And, as for Wonder Boyfriend, I think you should cut him some slack this once--maybe he was just having an off day. But if he keeps it up, use your Evil Mommy Powers on him! HAHAHA!

No cutting of the slack for the EX, though! I am so bossy, huh! Again, I hope I didn't overstep; I just do not want him walking on my friend!!!!

(((BIG TOUGH LOVE HUG--HA!!!)))

LUVYAEVERSOMUCH-er!

kim-d said...

Claudia--I am a big mouth and you should ignore me because I do not know what I am talking about. I am so sorry; I so hope I have not offended you or made you mad. Believe me, my heart was in the right place; it just irks me when it appears someone is being less than nice to my friends. However, I don't know enough about the situation to have said all I said and I hope you'll forgive! I just want you happy...

((SORRY FOR BEING A BIG-MOUTH HUG))

LUVYAEVERSOMUCH-er!

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

I am still dying today - I just forgot to say it. My lungs feel like they are on fire.

I am trying to get better like you commanded but so far - NO GO.

Hallie

kim-d said...

I am right below ya over at Hallie's...hehehehe!

((PARTNERS-IN-CRIME HUG))

Still LUVYAEVERSOMUCH-er, too!

kim-d said...

Just wanted to tell you to have a great weekend, and I'll talk to ya Sunday night!

((((I'LL MISS YOU HUGS))))

LUVYAEVERSOMUCH-er!

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

No new blog? What are you doing that has you too busy to blog?

Hallie :)